WELL USED, WELL LOVED
A Community art project that explores age and beauty
Through the vehicle of a physical object (a hand-woven towel, a journal and kozo paper) over 30 households explored questions of age, beauty, value and attachment.
From later January to late September 2016, we explored together and alone the following questions. Some of us wrote in journals while others wrote on kozo paper.
HERE IS OUR ENTIRE LIST OF PROMPTS
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Prompt #1 on kozo paper |
Prompt #1
- Hello
Introduce yourself and your
household.
Prompt #2 -
Old and beautiful
As you look around your life and
home -
What or who do you perceive of as
"old"?
What/who do you perceive as
"beautiful"?
Do you have possessions that feel
too precious or special to use?
Prompt #3 -
Will I be loved?
What connections do you see
between being attractive/beautiful and being loved?
If I feel
beautiful/attractive/appealing to others - will this mean I will be loved?
Prompt #4 -
Demonstrating Love
What actions, words, or attitudes
demonstrate love?
Prompt #5 - Sorting
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Prompt #5 on kozo paper |
Spring cleaning: Attachment to
objects, people, attitudes.
How do you sort, let go of these
thing/ people that are no longer serving you?
How do you evaluate the
need/desire to keep stuff?
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Response to prompt #6 |
Prompt #6
Absorption
The materials for this project
are handwoven linen and Kozo paper. Both of these are created from a plant
material, a bast fiber - both known for its absorption qualities.
Your towel, your paper has
absorbed much in the last two months you've been together. Absorption can also
been seen as dissolving boundaries, union.
In that light I wonder what parallels
or connection you observe between your own ability to absorb, to soak up, to
feel to empathize? What reflections do you perceive between your
materials (linen, paper) and the action of union, of dissolving boundaries of
connection? What value do these actions have today?
Prompt #7 The
Dark Side
For two months we have examined
and reflected on different aspects of using and loving.
This week I would like to explore
what might be considered the dark side of this topic. It’s a place that some might
shy away from – with all good reason. And yet, to know and understand
something – we must be aware of its opposite. In this case, what might be
the opposite of “Well Used, Well Loved”?
In yoga class, sometimes my
teacher will have us exaggerate the opposite of a pose – for example if she
wants us to relax and drop our shoulders – she asks us to shrug them up, way up
to our ears. And then we dip our shoulders back down with new awareness
of both positions. As many philosophers query – how can we know sunshine
without knowing shadow?
These opposites are an integral
part of Yin/Yang philosophy, Bali Hinduism and many other spiritual traditions.
Perhaps the deeper we explore both sides, the less obvious is the line
between “black and white".
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Prompt #7 in a journal |
PROMPT #7
Do you see
an opposite to Well Used, Well Loved?
Do you want
to explore this opposite side?
If so, what
do you see is the opposite of Well Used, Well Loved?
As
always – there are NO right answers to these prompts. And they are very
personal.
To share
them is your choice – not a requirement.
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Prompt #3 response in journal |
Prompt #8
Beauty, Economics, Well Being
Beauty is temporary - right??
You pick a beautiful flower and
know it will fade, wither and die.
How is it then that I struggle to
accept this?
How is it that I resist the
inevitable aging process of my own body?
This is a normal, natural
process.
For over 15 years I have colored
my hair (in reaction to school children commenting that I reminded them of
grandma.) I did not want to be like grandma while in my late 40s. So I took to
coloring my hair.
Just this month I made the
decision to "go gray". In
sharing this decision with a friend who is still active in her career ~ she remarked
she could not choose this option. She feels obligated to keep coloring
her hair while she is actively employed. "It's just a fact" she
said "To be valued in the work
place you must appear vital and youthful. Gray hair does not fit."
My mind quickly queried about the
connection between economic survival and our cultural attachment to beauty.
Thus Prompt #8 is ~
What
connection do you see in your own life between your economic survival/well
being and your age/beauty?? Are you in a profession that requires a certain
maintenance of image/beauty?
What
connections do you see in our culture between economic survival/well being and
age//beauty?
Prompt #9
Soft matter: vulnerability and
love
Both our towel and our Kozo paper
are soft materials - allowing them to show evidence of wear and tear - or use
and love. Our physical bodies are similar.
Prompt #10 "Saying Goodbye"
My most successful public
workshop is the Mandala Community Weaving. To introduce this project I sit and
talk with students about Mandalas - especially ones of sand made by the Tibetan Buddhist Monks. I guide
them thru the story of how the Monks take a long time (a week or so) to make these Mandalas, using
colored grains of sand that just lie on top of an outline.
I talk to the students about how
the monks make the Mandalas over and over again - as a practice and a lesson. I show them
photos to show how after spending days working on the Mandala, the Monks sweep
it up into a brass bowl and then with great ceremony they pour the sand into
the closest body of natural water.
After sharing this story I ask
them: "Why do you think the Monks spend a long time making something
beautiful and then pouring it into the water? What lesson do you think the
Monks are trying to learn?"
I have asked this question to
hundreds of young people - and invariably I get an array of beautiful answers.
The most memorable response was from an 8 year old in Maryland last
spring. He said "I think that they are
trying to learn how to say good bye to something that they love."
Yes, exactly.
Isn't this the most difficult
lesson we as human beings must learn. Whether it is a beloved flannel shirt
that is just too tattered to wear anymore or your elderly mother who is frail
and failing - it is very hard to say good bye.
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Letting go and saying good bye is hard. |
This will be my last official
prompt for the project - we will be saying good bye to this effort in a month.
Prompt #10 - How do you say
good bye to something or someone that you love?
Do you have a ritual for saying good bye? Can you share a story?